How close is too close?

gervaisWhether it’s on a bus or a subway, at a junior high school dance or after several drinks at the office Christmas party, we’ve all had that sinking feeling when someone we like (but don’t really like) gets too close.  It’s not a grope or something slap-worthy, but it’s still very uncomfortable.  The target of the unwanted intimacy has to put up a stop sign and both parties face a painful moment.  Putting the smiley facade back on the relationship is hard and often just not worth it.

Transpose that to marketing and you have the line between personalized and creepy.  We all love to discuss and learn more about the things that interest us, whether it’s comparing the quality of local elementary schools, the relative merits of various fancy vodkas, or which grocery stores offer the best selection and value.

Imagine that you are looking for a new dress for the upcoming office holiday party and want something stylish but not too sexy (see above).  Messages from clothing companies featuring images of those kind of dresses would be an efficient way to learn more about what’s available and reinforce your relationship with the brands that sent them.  A message from one of those brands highlighting your recent six-pound weight gain and proposing a larger size as a way to compensate for your over-indulgent vacation might be well-intentioned but are going to strike most consumers as creepy.  And a creeped-out consumer, like a creeped-out co-worker at the office party, flees.  But unlike colleagues who are likely to bump into each other at the break room coffee machine the next day, the uncomfortable consumer has no reason to ever engage with the offending brand again.  And that consumer is as likely as not to tell her friends about that brand interaction.

At the moment, I have no better definition of creepy, of the line between perceptive personalization and intrusive stalking, than to quote Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart’s 1964 definition of hard-core pornography, “I know it when I see it.”

Consumer attitudes toward data privacy, personalization and convenience are changing rapidly and we will be using this blog to explore those issues more.  One thing seems clear though, too close is still too close.  And the consequences for marketers of leaning in too far remain severe.

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About Nicholas Worth

A digital marketing entrepreneur, Nick Worth has worked closely with a number of innovative platforms and agencies. Currently, he directs Selligent's go-to-market strategy. As Selligent's Storyteller-in-Chief, he speaks frequently about the latest marketing trends to audiences around the world. Before joining Selligent, Nick was the Founder and President of Schematic, a global interactive agency. After selling his company to WPP, Nick moved from the US to England where he spends his evenings and weekends trying to maintain his son's appreciation for Americana, in all of its ridiculous and sublime glory. He has degrees from Harvard and Oxford.

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